I would like to think of the basketball court as being a “classroom” for high school players. There is so much besides just the skills of basketball that can be learned. The exciting thing for parents is that unlike the “academic classroom” where parents do get to observe their son/daughter, in basketball parents get to regularly be spectators in this unique classroom.
With 50 years of coaching, I have had the opportunity to watch parents who have taken advantage of watching their son/daughter in basketball, and watch them have a positive impact on their son/daughter’s experience. And in other cases, I have observed parents who have had a negative impact on their son/daughter’s experience. Here are some tips for parents based on my 50 years of observations-
1- Praise your son/daughter for participating in sports. You want them to stay involved, the experience will help them in so many ways.
2- As you watch them play, focus on your son/daughter’s effort, work ethic, body language, and interaction with their teammates. These are the skills that will make them successful later in life. When you see positive examples of behaviors in these areas, make sure you praise them.
3- Don’t allow your disappointment in your son/daughter’s playing time affect your son/daughter’s pride or happiness. When you complain about their lack of playing time, your son/daughter hears you saying, “Your role is not important.” I was surprised when a player did not go out for basketball as a senior. I was puzzled and asked another player why they had not come out. The other player replied,”They told me that they could not handle seeing how unhappy it made their dad when they didn’t play.”